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How to Find a Serious Relationship When Dating Over 50, According to Therapists. Dating at any age can be daunting but if you’ve been out of the game for a while, it can feel especially intimidating. The good news is, once you get over your initial first-date jitters, meeting new people can be a ton of fun and a great opportunity to find someone who could be an incredible addition to your life. The first truth when it comes to dating over 50? Understanding that it’s not going to be anything like it was when you were in your 20s or 30s. “You are not the same person you were back then,” says Pepper Schwartz, PhD, a sex and relationships researcher and author of Prime: Adventures And Advice On Sex, Love, And The Sensual Years. That means who—and what—you’re attracted to will look very different than it did in your younger years. On top of that, if you’ve been out of the dating scene for 20 or 30 years, you’ll come to realize that a lot has changed. For example, behaviors like “ghosting” (ending a relationship with someone by cutting off communication without explanation) and “breadcrumbing” (sending someone enough messages to keep them interested, but not enough to be committed) are part of the new norm. “These behaviors have been around for a long time, but nowhere near the extent to which they are now,” says Deb Laino, DHS, a Delaware-based relationship therapist and certified sex educator. So how can you best navigate all of these changes once you re-enter the dating game? Here are 11 tips to keep in mind when you’re dating over 50. Meeting people online is likely the biggest shift that’s happened since the last time you dated. But for most people over 50, “online dating is where it’s at,” says Schwartz, who recommends using sites that users have to pay for. “That means the company has their credit card, and if they are a bad actor in any way, you can tell the company, and they can bar them from the site,” she explains.Laino recommends sites like eHarmony, Match.com, and OurTime.com. “In my opinion, there’s a higher percentage of finding a relationship versus somebody just kind of fishing for a one-night stand,” she says. Schwartz recommends working on your online profile with a friend and having them “OK” your picture (which, by the way, should be recent—not from 20 years ago, says Laino). And don’t worry if it takes some time to get the hang of online dating. “My experience is that a lot of people who’ve been out of dating for that long—even 15 years or 10 years—have a little bit of a learning curve,” says Laino. Although online dating has become the go-to for most singles, it’s still important to not put all your eggs in one basket. “There should be a rotation of online and face-to-face meetings,” says Laino. “I never think it’s a good idea to just hang out in one area.” Laino recommends having friends or family introduce you to potential matches, going to outings offered by work, and going to meet-up groups like those offered by Meetup.com for things like hikes and book clubs to find people who share your interests. “I think that’s actually a really good use of both online and in person, and it takes away the concept of a date,” Laino says. If those methods don’t work, you can also try a matchmaking service like It’s Just Lunch, says Laino. Although they can get expensive, these services offer a more personalized experience, so you’re more likely to get a strong match right out of the gate. “You’re not just fishing online; you’re actually having someone narrow down a potential mate or two for you,” says Laino. If you haven’t experienced dating rejection in a while, this can be discouraging at best and hurtful at worst. The key here is to not take the rejection personally, as it more than likely has nothing to do with you. “People reject people for a whole host of different reasons,” says Laino. “Sometimes it’s because they don’t have the nerve to say hey, I’m dating a couple other people. Or hey, you remind me of someone. Or hey, I just feel a friendship vibe from you. So they end up just kind of disappearing, and it really comes off as harsh rejection.” If you’re struggling with rejection, Schwartz says to keep in mind what she calls her “pineapple theory,” which goes like this: Someone doesn’t like pineapple, so they take it off their plate when it’s served. But there are tons of people out there who love pineapple. “It’s the same fruit, but for no big reason except for individual taste, it’s a favorite of some and disliked by others,” says Schwartz. “But the pineapple is what it is—neither desirable or undesirable by nature. It just needs to find a pineapple lover.” The same goes for you, too. So the next time you’re dealing with rejection, remember: “You just need to find the person who has a taste for you,” says Schwartz. If you’re dealing with dating frustration, keep in mind that trying to find a partner is rarely a pretty, seamless process. “You may not find the love of your life on the first or second or third date, and that’s okay,” says Laino. “Dating is definitely one of those things that has lots of ups and downs.” Recognize that you’re probably going to have to go on several dates with different people before finding someone you really connect with. That’s normal, so although it’s easier said than done, try not to give up after a few bad dates. “It could take a year or more to find the right person, but if you are determined, you will find them,” says Schwartz. We all have insecurities and baggage from our past—from failed relationships to health issues or problems with your children. But to get back into the dating world, you need to be willing to leave your baggage behind and not let it keep you from finding future happiness with someone. “‘People think: Well gosh, I’ve been divorced twice. I’ve got three kids. Who’s going to want me?’” says Laino. “But the baggage has to go out the door because the reality is, everybody has baggage.” This goes for everyone dating over 50, but especially for those who’ve recently left a long-term relationship. “If they’ve been married before or they’ve been in a long-term relationship and now they’re coming back out into the dating world, I view that as almost a time of coalescence—a time of growth,” says Laino. Before heading back into the dating scene, reflect on what in your past relationship didn’t work, and how you can avoid a partner with those attributes going forward. Your vision of what you want shouldn’t be a laundry list of qualities, but rather, a few core attributes that are important to what you feel makes up a healthy relationship. “Look for core similarities, and think about what differences actually don’t matter,” says Schwartz. “For example, if you are not raising children, maybe religion or religious practices are something you can ignore or practice separately.” It’s also important to not get caught up in too specific of an idea of what you want or fall into a pattern of looking for the same thing you were looking for in your 20s. “Reconsider what the right match is,” says Schwartz. For example, it might have been important to you in your earlier years that your partner have a prestigious job or make a lot of money. But now, you might be financially stable enough to not view that as a requirement from a partner. Be open to these new changes in what you’re after. First dates can be nerve-wracking, especially if you haven’t been on one in a few decades. Laino’s advice? “Keep the conversation light and fun,” she says. “Don’t go heavy on what your ex did to you.” This same rule goes for body language. Make sure you smile often, and sit up tall and with your head up to show that you’re happy to be spending time with this person. Another topic you should try to avoid, or at least limit, is your kids. “The last thing you want to do is be having dinner with somebody and the conversation is all about the kids,” says Laino. “That’s not going to do anything for a spark.” It takes time to get to know someone so give it at least three dates to see if you click. “If you set up a vision and you go out on three dates and you’re questioning whether this person’s a good listener, or they acknowledge you, or whatever, and you haven’t seen it after three dates, then you’re probably not going to see it,” says Laino. Another good rule of thumb?

For that first date, keep it to a 20-minute coffee date, especially if it’s someone you met online. “That’s enough for the first introduction, and it can feel very long for the wrong person,” says Schwartz. At some point, dating will likely lead to sex, but remember: there’s no need to rush it. “I think the number one rule is do not have sex because you feel like you should have sex,” says Laino. “You have sex because you’re really ready. You feel comfortable with the person, like they’re not going to judge you.” Be upfront with your partner about your feelings toward sex and what you’re comfortable or uncomfortable with. Open up the conversation to let them know if you’re nervous or haven’t had sex in awhile, says Laino, and ask them if you can take it slow. “If you have some trust for the person, that should be a really great conversation and not an issue at all,” she says. And when you are ready to have sex, make sure you use protection. “Just because you’re older and not worried about pregnancy that doesn’t mean you can forget about condoms,” says Schwartz. “You can still get a sexually transmitted infection or disease.” Remember how in your 20s you would sit by the phone and wait for that guy to call you and ask you out on a second date? If you’re over 50, you shouldn’t put up with that. “I think at that age, at 50ish give or take, if somebody says they’re going to call you and they don’t, the end,” says Laino. “Get out of the game playing.” If you’ve found the perfect guy—he’s charming, sweet, sexy, and smart—don’t let those rose-colored glasses keep you from still getting the full picture of his life and how you would fit into it. This is especially true when it comes to his finances, friends, and family. “At age 50, he should have at least a comfortable lifestyle that shows responsibility,” says Schwartz. “Don’t make excuses for him just because he is charming, sexy, or compelling. Take a hard look at his spending habits. Are any of them scary?

If you would consider getting married, would a joint economic status put you in jeopardy?” Also keep in mind that when you start dating someone more seriously, it’s not just about the guy; it’s also about you creating an additional social group when you meet his friends and family and seeing how you fit into that, says Schwartz. One key component here?

How long it takes him to introduce you to the important people in his life. “Don’t let it go on too long without meeting his friends and family,” says Schwartz. “If he doesn’t include them he is either a) not serious, or b) hiding something.” So whether you’re just getting back into the dating game or have been dating for awhile with little luck, just remember: what you’re looking for is out there. It just takes time (and a little effort) to find it. “There are plenty of people who will love you for who you are,” says Schwartz. “Don’t compromise on important values because of a weak ego.” 50 Best Tips for Dating Over 50. Whether you're recently divorced, widowed, or just haven't found the right person yet, if you're on the dating scene at the mid-life mark, you're far from alone. According to Census data, more than a quarter of adults between the ages of 45 and 59 are single. In fact, there are 19.5 million unmarried Americans over 65. However, while there may be plenty of fish in the sea, finding a real catch is easier said than done, especially if Nixon was still in office the last time you went on a first date. After all, "the dating world today is much different from the dating world even 20-plus years ago," says life coach and licensed mental health counselor Dr. Jaime Kulaga, PhD. So, how can over-50 singles reenter the dating scene with confidence?

Follow these tips for dating over 50, and you'll find that special someone in no time. 1. Avoid internalizing rejections. Whether you've been single for some time or have just gotten back on the dating scene after a long relationship, nobody likes feeling rejected. However, try not to take it personally when you don't match with someone on a dating app or don't hear from them again after a few flirty messages. "Social media has improved dating, increasing the selection of people you can meet, but it has also posed some problems, too. One of those issues is the ease in rejecting people. In fact, on some platforms with a simple swipe to the left or right you can reject someone. But this rejection is not to be taken to heart," says Kulaga. "With how many people you can meet online, think of rejection as a time saver as opposed to something that is wrong with you. Mister or Miss Right will come along, but you need to remain confident in who you are and open-minded to the people that come your way." 2. Expand your usual age limits. Even if you've only dated people around your age in the past, why limit yourself now?

While dating someone 10 or 20 years older or younger than you may have been a big deal in your 20s and 30s, you'll likely realize that there isn't that much of a difference between a mature 38-year-old and a 58-year-old, or even between a 50- and 70-something. 3. Ease into talking about sensitive subjects. "Many fifty-somethings have built business and careers, are putting children through college and have even faced some health issues. But, on the first few dates with someone, it is not appropriate to focus on how much money they have in the bank and if they have health issues," says Kulaga. "The first few dates should be getting to know each other's personality, a little about their family, likes, a few dislikes, and fun life experiences. If date one jumps right to the serious and tough parts of life that even take a toll on the strongest couples, you may be weeding out (or they may be weeding out) some really amazing people to have fun with." 4. Don't be afraid to make your needs known. Just because you're not 22 anymore doesn't mean you have to accept any kind of relationship that's offered to you. If you're over 50 and still want to play the field, or you're looking for someone who shares a passion for traveling instead of spending nights in, it's your prerogative to be honest about those wishes. Don't compromise and find yourself in a relationship you don't really want. 5. Embrace your age. "Feel confident and sexy as opposed to finding ways to hide your age or lie about it. At some point, your age is going to come forward anyway—don't lie about it today and then have to find ways to come forward with the truth later after you really like someone," says Kulaga. "Talk about fun life experiences you have had and the goals you still have. Show your age and wisdom in fun, exciting ways that make people want to be a part of your journey." 6. Listen attentively. If you haven't been on a date in some time, it may be hard to contain your excitement, meaning you end up talking more than listening. However, if you're eager to land a second date, make sure you're actively listening to the person you're with—feeling heard goes a long way toward building trust. 7. Don't expect things to be the same as when you were 20. Dating isn't necessarily the formal affair it was when you were younger, so don't assume that you need to get your best suit ready, buy flowers, or get your hair done just to grab a cup of coffee with someone. Similarly, now that you're older, don't expect that things will get physical as fast as they did when you were younger. 8. Use photos on your online dating profile that reflect how you look currently. While it may be tempting to obscure your lines and wrinkles by using a filter or by posting an antique image or far-off photo, there are plenty of people out there eager to date people who look like you—just the way you are today. 9. Send a few flirty texts. Who says that a little digital flirtation is out of the question just because you're over 50? While we're not suggesting you send anything explicit to your date, a text reminding them that you can't wait to see them again can go a long way. 10. Ask someone out—even if you've never done it before. Even if asking someone out has never crossed your mind before, why not give it a try? While it takes a little bravery the first time, once you get a "yes," you'll have the confidence you need to do it again. 11. Try an age-specific dating site. Don't want your online profile to get lost in a sea of 20-somethings on your average dating site? Try an age-specific one instead. Sites like OurTime or SilverSingles make it easy to find someone who isn't just fine with your age, but is specifically looking for someone your age. 12. Don't get hung up on your past relationships. A painful divorce or the 30 happy years you spent together before your spouse's death may weigh heavily on your mind, but that doesn't mean stuff like that is appropriate first date fodder. When in doubt, save the talk of your past relationships for later down the line. 13. Master a skillful compliment. No matter what your age, everyone loves a thoughtful compliment. To ensure that your flattery isn't misconstrued, try to make your initial compliments about your date's personality or physical features from the neck up, like "You have such a winning smile" or, "I just love your sense of humor." You're aiming for charming, not creepy. 14. Ask a friend to introduce you. Don't feel ready to brave the online dating scene?

Ask a friend to set you up. By the time you're in your 50s, your friends likely know some other folks who are dating and also want to avoid downloading Tinder. 15. Put together some new outfits. If you don't feel good about the way you look, you're going to be preoccupied when you go on a date. "Taking an absence from the dating world may have you feeling out of touch, insignificant, or flat out old. Nothing is sexier than confidence, so make sure you take the time to refresh your wardrobe, practice yoga, or work out," says Maria Sullivan, dating expert and vice president of Dating.com. "Do whatever it takes to boost your self-esteem," 16. Get some advice from friends who've started dating again. "If you have children or younger friends you feel comfortable talking to about dating, get their input. You'll be surprised at what kind of advice they have to give. You may notice that dating culture today is much more different than what you're used to, and these loved ones can be great resources and confidence boosters," says Sullivan. 17. Get to know each other before meeting in person. Just because someone is interested in meeting you doesn't mean you need to schedule an in-person date immediately. "Jumping straight back into dating after a long break may be weird at first. Test the waters by starting conversations with multiple people," suggests Sullivan. "Once you feel you've found your groove, you can take the next step and meet for coffee or dinner." 18. Go Dutch. Even if you're used to one party paying for dates, for some older people on fixed incomes, buying more than one meal or movie ticket simply isn't in their budget. Offering to split costs takes some of the pressure off your date and allows you to sidestep some of those confining gender norms. 19. Be patient (on dating apps). Just because you don't instantly find your inbox flooded with messages from potential partners doesn't mean there isn't someone out there waiting to meet you. Even for people much younger than you, dating is still a process, so be patient with both yourself and your potential partners. 20. Never trash talk your ex. Even if your ex left you with a mountain of debt or some deep-rooted trust issues, do your best not to trash talk them to your early dates. While the end of your last relationship is bound to come up at some point if you keep seeing someone, if you say malicious things about your ex, your date might peg you as an unkind or cruel person and be less-than-eager to go out again. 21. Respond to messages in a timely manner. Even if you're not the most tech-savvy person, it pays to follow some basic etiquette rules when online dating, including responding to messages in a timely manner. While it may not seem like much time to you, the online dating world moves fast. So if you haven't written back to someone in a few days, they'll likely assume you're not interested. 22. Look up your prospective dates online before meeting. Before you agree to meet someone you met online, look them up first. Even a cursory Google search can bring up everything from their work information to their mug shot. Always better to be safe than sorry! 23. Talk yourself up online. You may not feel as confident dating at 50 as you did at 25, but that doesn't mean you should let that show on your dating profile. While nobody wants to a braggart, portraying yourself as the happy, fulfilled person you are can go a long way when you're looking to meet someone new. 24. Don't divulge any private or sensitive information. So you met Mr. or Miss Right online—and now they're asking you to deposit a check for them before you can meet in person. If any of your potential partners are asking you about sensitive issues early on in your relationship, like your finances or medical history, that's a major red flag and a sign you should shut things down. 25. Have your first date somewhere public. Your safety is paramount when it comes to dating at any age, so don't agree to have your early dates at your home. Meet somewhere public for your first few dates and get to know the person you're seeing before showing them your place or going to theirs. 26. Let someone know where you'll be going. If you're meeting someone for the first time, play it safe and let a friend or family member know where you'll be. At the very least, they can come rescue you if your date just isn't a good fit. 27. Try a new hobby. Having a hard time meeting new people?

Try out a new hobby. Join a gym, take a pottery class, or hit up the dog park with your canine companion. These are all great ways to meet people who share your interests. 28. Practice your flirting IRL. If you feel like your flirting skills are a bit rusty, try practicing on someone first. That doesn't mean asking out the guy who took your order at Starbucks and told you to have a nice day. But you can—and should—test out a few compliments or smiling at a cute stranger to help boost your confidence and prepare you for the real thing. 29. Take more solo adventures. Being alone and being lonely don't have to be synonymous. If you want to expand your romantic horizons, try taking a solo vacation, going to museums by yourself, or just exploring the town or city you live in on your own. You never know who you might meet!

30. Make eye contact. You don't have to play coy with every new person you meet. Make sure you're giving good eye contact to whoever you're on a date with—it'll make them feel heard, respected, and more eager to learn about you, as well. 31. Don't push yourself to do things you don't enjoy. While it's not a bad idea to try new things if you're looking to meet people, don't force yourself to do activities you already know you don't like. If you've tried archery, speed-dating, or marathon training and found that they weren't good fits for you, pushing yourself to continue doing them will only make you miserable—and likely to meet people who don't share your interests. 32. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Who says you have to only date one person at a time just because you're over 50? Not every date is going to be a great match, so feel free to cast a wide net. There's no reason to feel guilty about going out with more than one person at a time before things get serious. 33. Try dating outside your "type." Even if you've always had a particular type, don't be afraid to try something new when you're back on the dating scene over 50. Just because you've only dated white collar professionals doesn't mean you won't have just as much fun with someone working in a trade. And when it comes to physical appearance, dating someone who doesn't look like your exes can be an exciting adventure in its own right. 34. Don't try to sound too young on your dating profile. 35. Be honest about why your past relationships didn't work. Once you're in a relationship with someone, don't be shy about revealing why your past relationships didn't go the distance. While it's best not to be outright unkind about your ex, revealing that you had different priorities in terms of your family or your career can help you and your new partner determine if you can see your relationship lasting. 36. Listen to those gut instincts. If you've gotten a bad vibe from your date, don't brush it off. Those gut instincts are there to protect you, so if something feels off, don't feel bad about ending things. 37. Don't assume that younger or older people who are interested in you have an agenda. While it may seem a bit strange at first to have someone 20 years your junior or senior ask you out, don't assume that they have ulterior motives in doing so. Just because you've never dated outside your age range before doesn't mean that every younger person who wants to be with you is after your money, nor does it mean that someone older has a problem dating people their own age. 38. Protect yourself. Just because you're over 50 doesn't mean you can throw caution to the wind when it comes to your sexual health. While getting pregnant might not be as much of a concern as it was when you were younger, that doesn't mean it's not possible—and all the STIs that were around when you were dating in your teens and 20s are still around, too. So make sure you're using protection if you choose to get intimate. 39. Don't assume that marriage and kids are off the table. Even if you haven't gotten married or had kids by 50, there's no reason to rule them out entirely. There are plenty of couples who tie the knot or have kids later in life. If those things are important to you, don't be shy about making that known when you start getting serious with someone. 40. Allow yourself to have fun. That said, there's no reason to feel like your relationships have to be serious just because you're getting older. If you want to have a few casual flings or if you never see yourself getting married, that's more than fine—just be honest about these things with the people you're dating. 41. Try not to compare your new relationship with your previous ones. Whether you think your former spouse is a virtual saint or a monster, it never pays to compare your current relationship to your old one. Every relationship is different, and telling your new partner the ways they're better than your ex—or cataloging the things they don't do that your ex always did—will only make them feel like they can never measure up. 42. Cast expectations aside. In practice, dating after 50 can be very different than it was earlier in life. Health issues, complicated families, and different wants and needs can make dating feel like a totally different ballgame than it was in your 20s and 30s. So try to cast those expectations aside once you put yourself out there again. 43. Don't be surprised if you get a little giddy. Those butterflies in your stomach?

That impulse to check your phone to see if they've texted?

All totally normal. Just because you're older doesn't mean you shouldn't be just as excited about meeting someone great as you were in high school. 44. Don't immediately introduce them to friends and family. You may be excited to meet that aforementioned someone great, but don't assume that every relationship is going to be a lasting one. It can be awkward to feel like you're pushing your date into in your inner circle, so wait until you're certain you're on the same page about your relationship before having him or her meet your family and friends. 45. Don't downplay your accomplishments. Playing dumb or making light of your achievements is no way to start a relationship. If you're proud of your career, your hobbies, or the children you've raised, don't feel obligated to say otherwise to impress your date. Anyone worth seeing again will think it's exciting to discover what you're passionate about. 46. Don't ditch your standards. Just because you're older doesn't mean you have to give up your standards when it comes to dating. You're still a catch, and the people you go out with should be, too. So, that person who suggested you drop a few pounds, belittled your career, or acted like they were doing you a favor by dating you can just slink back off to whatever hole they crawled out of. 47. Ask them out again if you had a good time. Even if you didn't make the first move, that doesn't mean you can't make the second one! If you had a great time with someone, go ahead and drop "So when can I see you again?" into the conversation. 48. Get back in touch the day after your date. Playing games isn't cute at 20 and it's definitely not a good look at 50. If you had a good time on your date, let them know! There's no need to stick to that ancient "three-day rule." 49. Bu don't feel obligated to go on a second date if the first didn't work out. Didn't feel a connection with your date?

Don't waste your time—or theirs—by going on a second one. No matter what your age, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and there's someone out there who you will find that connection with. 50. Enjoy the journey. "Each date, especially early on, should be focused on getting to know each other and having a good time," says Kulaga. "Enjoy each opportunity to go out and smile, laugh, and just have fun!" And for more amazing dating advice, here are 40 Reasons Why Being Single in Your 40s is the Greatest Thing Ever. Find Lovely Singles at Over 50 Online Dating! Stop spending your days and nights alone!

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A bit over a decade ago, online dating was viewed by many as the last resort for those who hadn’t found a relationship the “normal” way. The industry has completely transformed a fundamental aspect of human communication, changing how we meet new people and go looking for partners. In the US, online dating is now the second most common way for heterosexual couples to meet (behind introductions through friends). After millions of years of human evolution, and thousands of years of the development of human society, humans had settled on the idea that in-person interactions through fun, face-to-face social activities were the best way to meet new people. Instead of meeting people in a fun social environment first, and using all the social tools we have to figure out if you like somebody’s company, technology arrived to help you make a decision about someone without ever even needing to meet them in person. Suddenly there was a different way to find a partner, one that promised practically infinite possibilities, where an algorithm could find you the “right” person without you needing to do the hard work of ever actually talking to them in person. And if you don’t like what you see, you can always click on to the next profile – there is always another candidate just around the corner! Of course, online dating wouldn’t be so popular if it didn’t work for so many people. According to some estimates, over a third of marriages in the US are now from couples who first met online. (Interestingly, that definition of “meeting online” includes more than just online dating sites, and includes all sorts of social networks and online communication.) If you’re aged 50 or over, finding a partner online is even more complicated. You’re not looking for the same things you were when you were young: you’re not typically looking to settle down and have kids, for example! Your reasons for finding someone are often broader and more diverse; you may not even be really sure if it’s romance you’re looking for at all. Add those complications to the fact that online dating is, for many people, a thoroughly dispiriting experience, and it’s no wonder that older adults are more likely to rate it as a negative experience than any other demographic. 1. Filters are your enemy. Researchers in the UK recently calculated the odds of finding a compatible partner if they used the average person’s requirements (in terms of desired age, physical requirements, location, and so on). In other words, applying the average person’s filters when it comes to finding a compatible partner gives you less than a 1 in 500 chance of being successful. Some sites take this to an extreme degree and let you go nuts specifying the attributes you want: professional background, religion, salary, ethnicity, personal habits, even pet preferences! What they don’t ever make clear is that each filter you add diminishes your chances of finding a compatible partner even further. The promise of making it easier to find your “ideal” companion by letting you add filters to hone in on specific requirements has actually had the opposite effect, diminishing your pool to the point it becomes almost impossible to find anyone! Before online dating existed, finding a compatible fit was far less clinical; you’d meet someone in real life, and if you enjoyed their company you might decide to on another date, maybe more. You would at least talk to someone before you’d go anywhere near finding out what their pet preferences were … and you’d then use your own judgement about whether you liked them or not. There is increasing evidence that, in face-to-face meetings, we are subconsciously picking up clues about the suitability of future partners based on a wide variety of non-verbal information. Online dating lures us with the false promise of an “ideal” partner so much that we apply filters that ensure we never get to meet that person in the first place. 2. A profile is not a person. Unfortunately, when you’re reading the profiles of other people, it’s easy to forget that this rule applies to them, too. You know that what you’re seeing isn’t an accurate representation of them, but it doesn’t stop you from judging them on it anyway. And, of course, the ones who are good at selling themselves generally do so by misrepresenting themselves to some extent. When you encounter one of these profiles, you haven’t met your ideal partner. You’ve just met someone who is good at telling you what you want to hear. Nobody’s profile really represents what they’re like in real life. And as a result, you will either underestimate them – and dismiss someone who could be a good match – or else overestimate them and then be disappointed when you meet in person. 3. Algorithms don’t work. That’s right, despite all the claims made by industry leaders such as Match and eHarmony about how well their matching algorithms work, over the last 20 years the consistent finding from researchers and sociologists, most notably a large-scale 2012 study published by the Association for Psychological Science, is that matching algorithms simply do not work. This may account for the rise of an app like Tinder, which does away with the premise of algorithms altogether and relies pretty much wholly on the ability to make a snap judgement based on looks alone. (This does of course create its own set of terrible problems, but at least Tinder isn’t promising that its algorithm is making the decisions for you, it’s up to you to make a decision based on what you see.) 4. Something better just a click away. While we’re on the topic of Tinder, it has been the poster child for a relatively new phenomenon over the last few years: free dating apps. These apps don’t charge fees (or do only for a very small percentage of their users), but rely on other ways to make money from their large user bases. It’s not surprising that price-sensitive consumers have flocked to these apps, after years of experiencing predatory behavior and questionable business practices from all of the major paid dating sites. But it unfortunately exposes them to one of the other perils of online dating: the constant suggestion that there is always something better just around the corner. “It is, after all, a sort of digital menu full of people waiting to be chosen or disregarded. As well as the convenience factor it’s easy to get carried away with the high of instant gratification.” But it’s not the instant gratification alone that is the problem. With no financial requirement, free sites will naturally attract a greater proportion of people who are not really committed to finding a genuine relationship. By inviting users to explore a world of infinite choice without any consequences, is it any wonder that it’s so difficult to find someone who is interested in the hard work of an actual relationship? Anyone you meet on a free app has been trained to believe that there could always be someone better just a click away. The moment they decide that you are not perfect enough for them, their interest in you fades and they have clicked on to the next person. 5. Nobody is the best version of themselves when they date. The “get to know you” questions that are meant to provide a glimpse of whether you’ll be a fit, and the pressure of knowing that if you say the wrong thing it will derail everything. By the same logic, the same holds true for everyone you date. Yet none of us seems to stop us from going out on these awkward, not-fun, misery-inducing dates in an attempt to find a compatible partner. The best version of you is usually found when you’re a) not feeling stressed or worried about being judged, and b) doing something you actually enjoy. 6. Fakes and phonies. Considering that most fake profiles are created by scammers and criminals seeking to steal from the people they meet, that’s an astoundingly high percentage. OK, but what do we do about it?

After all, we know that a growing number of people are finding success when it comes to searching for a partner online. Online dating might be broken, but that doesn’t mean you still can’t find the person you’re looking for. You just need to use a different approach. There is a solution to each one of the issues I’ve outlined above. If you adopt an approach that addresses each one, you’ll give yourself a great shot of finding the right companion. 1. Filters don’t work … so stop filtering. Do they really need to be five years younger than you? Or is the main thing that they young enough in spirit to do the things you want to do? If you start to remove some of the filters you’ve subconsciously applied to the sort of person you are looking for, you will find you increase your chances of success from one in a million to something far more reasonable. 2. Don’t “date” Instead, simply get yourself out there doing the things you love. And put yourself in an environment where you meet people who love those things too. Talk is cheap, and anyone can say they like dancing, going for long walks, or abstract art. But if you get out there and get engaged in an activity that you like, you know that anyone you meet there is going to share those interests with you too. That’s one of the reasons we made activities, events and suggestions such a core part of meeting new companions on Stitch. If you attend a Stitch activity, or suggest something you’d like to do, you’re guaranteed to meet someone who likes it too. You might have forgotten to mention on your profile that you like attending talks at Writer’s Festivals, for example. That’s part of your iceberg that other people don’t get to see if they just read your profile. But simply by attending a Writer’s Festival event with other Stitch members, you know you’re going to meet people looking for companionship who have similar interests to you. The same idea holds true for any activity, whether it’s watching the football or going for a hike. And the best part is that even if you don’t meet your ultimate companion, you’ll still end up having a great time doing something you love. That’s a whole lot better than going out on a bad first date, isn’t it?

You don’t need to use Stitch for this, by the way: you can find activities you enjoy in a variety of other ways. The only difference is that Stitch brings together people who are looking for like-minded companions through the activities that they choose, so it’s built to do this all for you. 3. Forget the algorithms. If two decades’ worth of research tells you that algorithms matching you with ideal companions don’t work, then we think you should listen to it. That goes double for expensive match-maker services that charge thousands of dollars, only to match you with the same people you’re seeing on the dating sites you are already using. 4. Avoid the cheapskates. If someone isn’t willing to make a small financial commitment to finding the right companion, then it doesn’t send you any positive signals about how serious they are about meeting someone. They could simply have been burned by unscrupulous dating sites in the past, and are trying to avoid being ripped off again. But unfortunately you have no way of telling if that’s the case, or if they are one of the millions of users who have created an account for all the wrong reasons. That’s not to say you should expect anyone to spend lots of money on premium services. Some matchmakers are known to charge over $10,000 per year for their services, and that is certainly not money well spent! But if you focus on people who have been willing to pay a reasonable membership fee, rather than just sticking with a free account, you’ll instantly weed out 95% of the people who give dating a bad name. 5. A profiles isn’t a person … so talk to the person. No matter how appealing it is to sit at home and dismiss potential companions from the comfort of your lounge chair, you know by now that it just doesn’t work. You need to engage with people to find out what they’re really like. No, but you can engage with a lot more of the profiles you see for at least an initial conversation, before writing them off completely. Next time you think about hitting “Dismiss”, choose “Maybe” instead. And if you see someone who looks like a “Maybe”, send them a message and ask them a question or two. You will be surprised what you discover. 6. Keep yourself safe. This one is fundamentally important. It’s not going to necessarily find you a companion, but you definitely don’t want to get hurt while you look for one. I’m very passionate about this issue, given the number of online scams targeted at older adults was one of the reasons we started Stitch in the first place. And it’s certainly why we’re the only site in the world to require identity verification from all our members. But even if you choose to use something else, make sure you follow our guidelines for keeping yourself safe online. It’s actually pretty easy to stay safe if you follow a few simple rules, so you’ve got no excuse for not doing so. OK, so there you have it: our guidance for why online dating for over 50s doesn’t work, and what you can do about it. What do you think?

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. There are many dating sites over 50 years in existence. It’s a great question to ask yourself and consider the longevity of such a site when you begin to consider your options. Some have enjoyed much longer lasting success than others over the years and this is the reason why I have decided to put together this article to help you make an informed decision about dating sites over 50 years old. The first thing that you need to consider when it comes to a dating site is how active the staff is. In order to attract and retain as many regular visitors as possible, it is important that you find a site that is active and not dead and buried. There is no sense in jumping from one dating site to another everyday and wasting your time in the process. Over 50 Singles Dating Sites. While you are searching for dating sites for older adults, you will encounter a lot of sites that promise to help you meet like-minded people. They say they have experienced what you are experiencing and they can help you achieve happiness. You just need to sit back and believe them. But in reality, how can someone who says they know exactly what you need is going to be able to give you any type of help?

If you are older and looking for love, then you need to be careful about who you give your personal information too. The Internet has certainly made it very easy to get involved with people you don’t know. As well, you have to realize there are many older adults out there who are also trying to get involved with someone new. So, how do you make sure you avoid these bad apples? First of all, you will need to be aware of the fact that everyone is not looking for the same thing in a relationship. While you might think you met the perfect person on that site, she may only be looking for the same things as you. This means you have to be open to different possibilities. When you are searching for sites for older people, there are several things you can do to narrow down the choices. You will want to start by using a search engine to look for dating sites. There are numerous choices available to you. Start by narrowing down the choices by looking for specific criteria. For example, if you are interested in finding someone with a great sense of humor, then you might search for dating sites that focus on this. You need to be realistic when you are using the Internet to find people. You won’t find someone that is exactly like you in just a matter of hours. It may take you months or even years before you are compatible with someone. It is important to realize that some older people have different needs than younger people. Your looks are not going to be a factor in what they are looking for. In addition, there are people who aren’t looking for looks but are more into adventure and friendships. The site you use should be geared towards your needs. It is also important to remember that most sites will not give you the whole picture about the other person. They may not be ready to meet you. Make sure the dating site you are signing up for is fair and transparent. Some sites only show a very small portion of what the other person is like. So now you know how to choose the best dating sites for older people. Try to narrow down your choices by focusing on the criteria you mentioned above. Think about what you hope to get out of this experience. Decide whether you’re looking for a one night stand or a serious relationship. By doing so, you’ll have much better luck with finding the right site for your needs. What to Consider When Looking for Dating Sites Over 50. You will also want to look at the various dating sites and see what type of activity they offer. A lot of these sites are geared towards specific age groups and interests. It’s not always easy to find a site that is geared towards everyone. If you go over the site and really examine it closely you should be able to determine what type of activities are offered. This will help you determine if you actually enjoy the various dating site offerings and find the one that suits you best. A lot of these sites are geared towards specific age groups and interests. It’s not always easy to find a site that is geared towards everyone. Another very important aspect to consider is ease of use. In order to succeed in finding a date online, you must be able to navigate through the site with ease. This is especially true if you choose to go with dating site that is very specialized in its offerings. Choose sites that are not overly complicated and that allow you to easily browse through their offerings. Some sites have so many things on them that you might spend hours trying to figure out what it is that you are looking for!

I recommend always going with a dating site that is free. A lot of these sites are supported by advertisers, which can make their costs go up and can become quite expensive. If you choose a free site then you will have no such worries and will be able to browse the site without worrying about any cost or overhead. I also recommend going with a site that is very broad in its offerings because this will help you find what you are looking for in the vast majority of its offerings. If you choose a free site then you will have no such worries and will be able to browse the site without worrying about any cost or overhead. Some sites specialize in certain things. For instance, there are dating sites that are solely committed to providing sexy mature women. On the other hand, there are also sites that are only dedicated to dating younger men. There are sites that cater to a variety of different interests. They are also broad in their offerings because they provide services to people in a variety of different age ranges and interests. The other thing to consider is whether the site offers what you are looking for. For example, some sites will allow you to create a profile and email address that can be used to communicate with other members. On other sites, you can choose the kind of contact that you want to have with other members. These things can all be customized according to what your preferences are. My advice to you is to take some time to look at all of your options when it comes to dating sites. Make sure that the site that you choose fits what you are looking for and that you are comfortable using. If you do that, then you should be able to use the site without any problems or difficulties. Hopefully you will find the perfect site for dating sites over 50. Top 5 Tips For Dating After 50. Many people have not yet embraced the concept of dating men over 50. This is understandable since, by its very nature, this segment of the population is considered old and that, therefore, represents a smaller market segment. That being said, you will find there are more of them around. There are also more women out there willing to date them. So, if you are one of those women looking for men, this might just be the perfect time to hit the town with your guy of a friend or colleague. As you would expect, when it comes to dating men over 50, you will need to consider a few things before you get started. One of these is his general health condition. If he needs medication to deal with his chronic condition that has been hampering his ability to socialize freely, then you may want to steer clear away from asking him out on a date. In addition, his family doctor should be consulted to ensure that there are no physical complications that could interfere with your plans of dating him. Make sure to take this step as a precondition to your proposed date. If all looks good with your prospective male companion, prepare yourself for some physical activity. Your boyfriend will most likely be feeling fitter than he has in a long time, so you may want to show him a thing or two that will get his blood pumping. It is advisable to arrange some cardio workouts of your own so that he gets the added incentive to continue walking and keeping fit. On your part, it is important to tone up and get a good amount of muscle mass so that you appear younger. This will help you project an aura of vitality that will catch the interest of the men that find you appealing. It goes without saying that you will have to show your age when it comes to dating men over 50. So, as much as possible, do not look too much younger than your actual age. For instance, let your hair grow some more and buy new clothes. Do not let yourself look worn out or old. On the other hand, do not appear too old to be of any use to your prospective boyfriends. Make it a point to be presentable when you go out on your first date with any of your male dating partners. It is very important to ensure that he knows that you will be looking your best at all times. This way, he can be assured that he will be meeting a pretty girl every time he goes out with you. Dating men over 50 can be quite challenging, but with a little bit of practice, you will be able to succeed. So, what are some of the things that you should keep in mind when dating older men?

The first thing that you must do is take note of how your date acts. There is no point in dating a man who is too slow or too talkative. Aging men simply do not have the same vocabulary as younger men, so do not use this as an opportunity to force your opinions down his throat. When dating men over 50, make him understand that you would like to learn more about him and what he is like. Do not take the lead in conversation; rather, spend time listening to what he has to say first. One thing that you should consider is not wearing too much Cologne or perfume. Men these days tend to forget that women are also attracted to fragrances and cosmetics. So, when you are dating men over 50, do not buy him a whole lot of cosmetics. It will actually work against you, because it will make him think that you are desperate for his attention and that you need him badly. On the other hand, if you give him some nice scents and cosmetics, then you will find that he feels interested in you. Another important thing to consider when dating men over 50 is that, you need to be patient. They may seem like they are past the age of dating, but this is simply because they are not aware of the latest fashion and styles. They may also not be interested in having a serious relationship. So, make sure that you give him a chance to realize what he has in store for him later on. Over Fifty Sites to Choose From. There are many benefits of using an over fifty dating site. Most of these sites are specially designed for older individuals who are seeking a date and are in the market to find one. Some over fifty sites specialize in matching up older individuals seeking dates with younger ones. You will be sure that you find a site that will suit your needs perfectly. Benefits. The first benefit of using an over fifty dating site is that you will get to know a lot more people. This will give you more chances to meet someone new. It may even be possible to find a lifelong partner through an over fifty dating site. The more people you get to know, the greater will be your chances of finding that special person. You might even end up creating your own profile and getting as many matches as possible. Another advantage of these dating sites is that they offer a whole lot of facilities. These include chat rooms, instant messaging, and many other features which will make the entire experience enjoyable. Many of these sites also have members who will be willing to converse in English so that you don’t have to worry about interacting in any language. You will also get a lot of tips from fellow site members and the site staff about how to talk to someone in their native language. One of the greatest advantages of using an over fifty dating site is the anonymity. You will remain under the shadow of your screen name and identity will never be revealed to anyone. Even if you take the occasional dare to speak to someone, it will be well within your capacity. There will be no need to worry about what people think of your latest escapades since they will remain a secret. In addition to all this, many over fifty sites also have a wide range of options. If you happen to be the kind of person who likes to spend some time alone, you will find that there are some lovely empty houses where you can stay overnight. You can also easily look for a room in the hotel if you need one. With so many rooms to choose from, you will certainly never run out of options. Another great thing about these over fifty dating sites is that you will always have plenty of choices. Since everyone in your age group is over fifty years old, you will never be short of a partner. You will have to choose among people who look like your ancestors or you will have to choose randomly. No one will be disappointed with the choices at these over fifty dating sites. You can use a photo to prove yourself and others will have no reason to doubt you. Most of these sites offer free membership for newcomers. This means that you will be able to find your way around without having to spend any money. The only cost that you will incur is that of your registration. The average registration fee is just ten dollars. This is very reasonable considering how much you will get to save by using an online site for dating instead of using a conventional one. The first step to finding a date online is to register at one of the over fifty dating sites. You will never know which ones are best suited to you. Just keep trying until you find the perfect person to share your life with. Once you have registered at the site, you will be able to browse through the members. There is a great chance that someone will meet you and this will help to speed up your dating search. When you come across somebody who you think is worth a profile to read more about them. You can write a brief description about yourself online and see if there are any pictures included in the profile. Choose some common characteristics that you can add to your profile. This will make it easier for other members to identify with you and become familiar with you. You should also be prepared to answer any questions that they may have. It is also wise to take advantage of the facilities that these sites offer. Some of them provide an option for video chatting so you will be able to communicate better with the other person. Final Thoughts. The advantages of online communication are endless. You will not have to worry about face-to-face meetings and you will not have to leave home in order to do so. These sites are becoming increasingly popular because they provide a safe and secure environment for singles to find love. When you are looking for love, you may want to consider signing up for one of these sites. Jessica is a Dating Expert at WomenDatingOlderMen. She provides tips for success in the world of online dating. Her articles cover all topics regards legit international dating sites. Jessica provides the best dating tips mostly for seniors. She founds herself in blog writing.

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